Sexual Health FAQs

We’ve been doing sexual health work for more than 40 years so we’ve heard lots and lots of questions about sexuality and sexual health. There is not much you could ask us that would make us feel uncomfortable or judgmental. It’s our job to provide our clients and the community with factual and current information. Please don’t hesitate to contact us if you can’t find the answer to your question on our site.

Here is a list of the most common questions we get asked both in the clinic and the community by people from all different backgrounds.

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How old do I have to be to come to the clinic?

There is no age limit to become a client of the Island Sexual Health Society. You can come to any of our clinics at any age.

Do I have to tell my parents?

All of our services are totally confidential. You don’t need your parents’ permission, and you don’t have to tell them if you don’t want to. You are also welcome to bring your parents with you to the clinic, if you choose.

What if I need (birth control) pills and can’t pay for them?

If you need pills and don’t have the money when you come to the clinic, we will give you one pack of pills on credit and keep a tally of your account. If ongoing payment is a problem please ask to see our nurse and discuss an assistance program.

What do I do if I miss a pill?

If you miss a pill take it as soon as you remember and refer to our missed pills guidelines to see if you need to take emergency contraception.Also use a back-up method, such as condoms, for a week.

I think I might be pregnant! How can I find out?

If you have missed a period, or if your period is late, you can take a pregnancy (urine) test to find out if you are pregnant. We can do a pregnancy test for you and have counsellors available to discuss your options with you. You can also see your doctor to be tested. Other signs of pregnancy include Fatigue or tiredness, Swelling, soreness or tenderness in your breasts, and Nausea or vomiting. Stress or changes in your lifestyle can affect your menstrual cycle too, so that may be why your period is late. Get tested to be sure, and continue to use birth control if you are still having sex and don’t want to become pregnant.

Can I get pregnant the first time I have sex?

Yes! You can get pregnant the first time you have sex because having sex for the first time is the same as having sex any other time. If you want to avoid becoming pregnant, you should use birth control, right from the first time you have sex.

Can I get pregnant by swallowing the semen during oral sex?

No, you can’t. Swallowing semen is the same as eating something that ends up in your digestive system—it can’t make you pregnant because your mouth doesn’t connect with your reproductive system. Remember though, that you can get a sexually transmitted disease through oral sex if your partner is infected, so you should use a condom or dental dam during oral sex.

Can I become pregnant without having sex?

You can’t get pregnant through oral sex, or through masturbation. But if you are fooling around with your partner and there is any genital contact, especially where fluid is involved, there is a chance that you can become pregnant. This can even happen if he touches his own semen and then touches your vagina with his hands. If you want to make sure that you don’t become pregnant, make sure you use a condom, or avoid having contact with his genitals and fluids.

Can I get my girlfriend pregnant if she has her period?

A woman can get pregnant any time of the month, even during her period. It’s not the most likely time, but it can happen.

If I am taking birth control pills, do we still need to use condoms?

Yes. Birth control pills are only prescribed to prevent pregnancy; pills do not prevent sexually transmitted infections. Condoms offer your best chance at preventing STIs.