It is almost impossible to talk about sex without talking about relationships but because we specialize in sexual health not relationships, we’re going to keep this information here brief but have some great resources at the end that can provide you with more information. Each person has their own idea of what relationships will look like for themselves. Some know what they are looking for at a really young age while others don’t think about it until they’re 15 or 16. And some people know they don’t ever want to be in a romantic or sexual relationship with someone else. Whatever works for you, works for you! Just like every other part of your life, it’s important to explore it for yourself. Consider the relationships of the people close to you – they could be your parents, older brothers or sisters with their partners, or even those you see in the media. What do you think works in them and what wouldn’t work for you. This can give you an idea of what you want in a relationship even if you’ve never had a gf or bf before.
Some people define a relationship as only seeing another person and they are only seeing you. Some say that it’s open to seeing other people. Some say it’s an emotional attachment to another person, some say it’s both physical and emotional and some are happy to just be physical or have sex with someone else without the emotions.
How do I know if my relationship is healthy or not?
This is probably one of the most difficult questions to answer because each of us has different expectations, definitions, and experiences with relationships. Labelling a relationship as healthy or unhealthy may not be the most effective way to explore relationships. We really like using the ideas behind the acronym S.H.A.R.E to explore relationships.
If you are concerned that you or someone else you know is in a negative or abusive relationship, please find an adult you can trust and tell them you need help, If you want more information on relationships, you can always use the youthspace website, the youthspace text number or the VI crisis line.