This may seem like the last thing you actually want to do but the truth is that many of the adults in your life can be great sources of sexuality information and support for you. We realize that not everyone is comfortable talking about sex but we believe everyone can grow to be. It’s not always an easy topic to talk about with parents, teachers, doctors or nurses. Some youth feel super comfortable with the idea of talking about sex with the adults in their lives and others can think of a ton of other topics they would way rather talk about! Often the hardest part is getting the conversations started. That’s why we put together this pointer tip.
5 tips on how to talk about sex with Adults:
Use the media to talk about sex
You know all of those awkward moments when you’re watching tv or listening to the radio and something sexual comes on and you want to be anywhere but there? Rather than suffering through the awkwardness, why not use the opportunity to talk about how you feel about what’s on. Talk about whether you agree/disagree with what’s being shown or what you know about the particular issue.
Don’t put it off and wait for the “perfect” time.
You know how good you are at putting off your math homework or cleaning your room? It can be easy to put this off and hope the right time will present itself. If you have question you want answers to, now is the best time to ask. You are as comfortable as you need to be right now and talking about it will make you less uncomfortable. It’s completely OK to be at whatever comfort level you’re at! In fact No matter what your question is, you have the right to ask it and to get the best information possible.
Choose who you want to speak with – think of the least awkward person you know!
We all have adults in our lives that can be great sources of information about sex and sexuality but we may not know who they are. Yet! They may be your parent, an older sibling, a crazy Aunt (we all have one of those!), a grandparent, a family friend, a teacher, a youth leader or a doctor. Adults can offer you a different point of view, help connect you to great resources, and support your decisions. The most important thing is to ask those who you feel comfortable with and trust. Let that adult know that you are coming to them in confidence and that you expect them to not share this information with anyone else.
Think about what you want to talk about before you approach the conversation
Knowing what you want to ask ahead of time can help you more relaxed. Some people write down their questions so that they can remember specific questions they have. Talk about what you’ve learned in sex ed at school or what you’ve heard. Talk about how you feel about what you’re talking about and why.
Choose a time/place/method that will make the conversation more comfortable
If you’re going to talk in person, choose a private place that’s comfortable for you and that helps you to focus on conversation. Sometimes talking at a time when eye contact is option and something else is going on like walking the dog, doing dishes, or watching tv can increase comfort for everyone.